Always ask for what you really want Sometimes it’s scary to admit to yourself what you really want, because you’re afraid that you can’t get it. So it’s easier to focus on something else that you do expect is possible. Only to find out that you will never get it, no matter how hard your try. I just finished a one-on-one mentoring program with a lady that asked me to help her deal with losing contact with her daughter and grandchildren. She would continuously get into fights with her daughter and son in law, until the point that her daughter told her she was no longer welcome to come over and see her grandchildren. She was determined to let go of the pain and go on with her life. To focus on her business and forget about her grandchildren, because it was to painful to think about them growing up without her. So she didn’t expect my first question: if that was what she really wanted. If she could change this situation into a perfect situation. Would that be it? Her answer was: ‘Well no, not actually, but it’s not possible to get a good relationship with my daughter for so many reasons, so I just have to let them go’. With that being her answer, I asked her if she was willing to do the work, even if there was no guarantee that she would ever rekindle their relationship. In making the decision that she would do whatever it would take to be able to see her grandchildren grow up, she started shifting so much energy already. Over the course of three months we worked on her personal development, we looked at old patterns, healed her inner child and grew her awareness of her ego system and learned tools to help her stay aware of her old thought patterns and focus on the desired outcome. In the end she was able to have an amazing conversation with her daughter, free of her ego, free of her old coping mechanisms and was able to build a new relationship with her daughter out of mutual respect and love. In our last conversation we talked about her initial goal and how different it all worked out in the end. How grateful she was for making the decision to first work on herself before expecting anything from her daughter. How amazed she was that it all worked out better than she could ever have imagined. And how as a side effect of it all, her relationship with her husband improved, she made some great investments in her business that gave her more free time and more money and she felt like she had more energy than she had in years. So she left me with a huge feeling of gratitude for being part of her process and an open space in my one-on-one mentoring program. Does this feel like something you are ready for? This is a three month commitment that will change your life. DM me for more information or to schedule a chemistry call.